TYPE 4: THE INDIVIDUALIST
In One Sentence I try to be authentic with every fiber of my being but it’s so hard to know who I really am deep down and I’m constantly overwhelmed trying to do justice to my talents, all the while feeling misunderstood by people who move too fast, are too shallow, and act too harshly to understand my full heart
Essence Qualities Originality, Depth, Beauty
Basic Fear losing my true identity
Basic Desire to feel completely authentic
Famous 4s Anne Frank, Annie Lenox, Bjork, Bob Dylan, Dave Navarro, David Bowie, Edvard Munch, Emmanuelle Béart, Enya, Frida Kahlo, Jeremy Irons, Jim Morrison, Johnny Depp, Juliette Binoche, Kesha, Lauryn Hill, Maggie Rogers, Michael Jackson, Philip Seymour Hoffman, Prince, Rumi, Soren Kierkegaard, Thora Birch, Vincent Van Gogh
Countries and Cultures that Reflect Type 4 Characteristics: France, Romanticism Movement
Levels of Consciousness
Creative: unique, profound
Controlling: snobbish, melancholic
Destructive: petulant, hopeless
Shock point fear (the fear that causes the slip from Creative to Controlling consciousness)
My changeable feelings won’t sustain me and my creativity
Examples of shock point fears
The first date was magical... The second date the mystery got dispelled too quickly. I’m just not feeling it anymore.
Transformers was the best show ever! …when I was 10. It’s not the same at 30… My lesson: I can no longer trust the world. Nothing is what it seems to be.
Someone wrote my novel before I did, but worse…
The song that was like my theme song in life became too popular and got played out. This is a travesty. I’ve been robbed.
My friends used to make me feel smart but now I see how shallow they’ve always been. I shun them.
Why I get provoked Making me feel like I’m nobody special, my voice doesn’t matter, I’m not extremely deep, clear, real, thoughtful, perceptive, insightful, creative, impassioned, caring, and impactful in my approach to every single thing in life, because the reality is that no matter how hard I try, I’m just too flawed to make it through the world, as I always knew…
How I cope with shame I become The Sick Patient. I become so resigned to the reality that the world doesn’t understand and nurture me, knowing I’ve given my whole heart to all that I do and it’s simply not been received – where even the smallest act of mine that goes under-appreciated feels like a direct rejection of me – such that I carry my heart as a wound I need to nurse indefinitely in an emotional puddle until someone finally notices, empathizes, and allows me to make them see how brilliant, sincere, caring, honest, and gifted I really am, in every way.
How was your day, Type 4?
“Overwhelming. I don’t even know where to begin sharing…”
My Emotions are too many and too deep to process; which one do I let myself feel first?
Behavioral pattern Withdrawn. I need space to deeply explore myself separate from the shallow, mainstream world that doesn’t understand me and doesn’t understand period
4 with 3 wing: I’m a shy, deep thinker who has huge ambition and loves to have an audience I can impact with my gifts while I constantly feel not up to snuff and how life is passing me by because I’m too slow to keep up
4 with 5 wing: I’m a heart person longing to connect with others but often live in my own world, wondering if I’m meant to forever be an outsider as I’m unable to care about the things society cares about or fit the social mold with my withdrawn, sensitive, and philosophical nature
A Personal Meditation for Growth I'm doing much better than I think thanks to the thoughtfulness and care I try to always offer
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