TYPE 2: THE HELPER
In One Sentence I’m all about taking care of others and having heart to hearts so I can feel really close and loved, but I have a hard time giving others space or seeing my own needs
Essence Qualities Tenderness, Sweetness, Warmth
Basic Fear being unable to love and be loved enough
Basic Desire to feel intimate
Famous 2s Fred Rogers, Sally Field, Stevie Wonder
**There are generally very few famous 2s, but if you know of any, please email us**
Levels of Consciousness
Creative: unconditional, nurturing
Controlling: flattering, hovering
Destructive: smothering, stalking
Shock point fear (the fear that causes the slip from Creative to Controlling consciousness)
Whatever I have been doing for others is not enough to win their love
Examples of shock point fears
My child doesn’t want to spend quality time with me
The person I just met doesn’t invite me over to her home to connect more intimately in friendship
My colleague doesn’t start sharing secrets with me even when I open it up for that
I wished more people happy birthday than wished me
Why I get provoked Making me feel like we’re not as close as I feel, like I’m not selfless and caring enough to help you in all respects, like there are better friends and more loving people to have by your side, or bringing me in touch with my own deep-seated neediness, directly or indirectly
How I cope with shame I become The Intimacy Igniter. I dive head-first into best-friend mode to make you see I’m the most loving person on earth by serving your every possible need, acting super-affectionately, lavishing you with praises, and becoming a robust generator of quality-time opportunities
My Emotions are too big for you!
How was your day, Type 2?
“Oh, it was good, but how was YOUR day?”
Behavioral pattern Dutiful. I must give love in order to receive love, but really I just want to give love because I’ve kept it a secret from myself how much I need it in return
2 with 1 Wing I’m bubbly and caring with a grave side to me that is stringent on principles, sees things in black and white, and constantly expects more from myself than I can give while I give so much
2 with 3 Wing I’m a rosy-cheeked storehouse of sweetness that is all about being with people, I love being everyone’s friend and confidante, but I secretly like to get claps for the things I do for people
A Personal Meditation for Growth My needs are human and I can be honest about them with others
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